Excepting You

Day after day I observe the women in my environment, and each day I come to the conclusion that so many women are truely oblivious to their true self. The power of mass media has drasticly altered the way we look at ourselves. How is it that a women can fall under the spell of ignorance and bias when it comes to her own self image? I understand how society sends the message that what is god given is not natural. Basically, that Gods grace is negative. In accuracy the truth, belief, and embrace of what is god given IS natural,IS genuine, IS unique, and Is special. So embrace your true self, embrace God's Grace. ~lovejoyasha~

Is Chivalry Really Dead?

Following an onging argument with my fiance' I thought that chivalry really must be dead. I couldn't get him to do anything "just because". He equated doing something nice as "purchasing a gift", and he'd go on and on about how that isn't necessary. Finally, I found the words to describe what I meant by being nice or doing anything for me outside of fustrating me because I couldn't get him to reach nirvana...lol(mentally). So I used the word "thoughtful", and he understood. I think in 2009 close to 2010 many men are so put off by the "gold diggers" and the "gimme gimme girls" that they are so apprehensive about showing a girl what she really wants..."chivalry". To me chivalry goes beyond holding the door or pulling out chairs,...it's about allowing yourself to be vulnerable even with others are watching. Actions speak louder than words and I think many women respond to that. Yes, there are still women who enjoy the simple things. So I guess my point is, Chivalry is not dead, it's just misunderstood. ~lovejoyasha~

Am I My Sister's Keeper?

Yesterday, I thought to myself "Am I My Sister's Keeper?" One may ask "my sister's keeper...what does that mean?" My sister's keeper means supporting other women instead of envying them or putting them down because you are a **hater** or because you have issues within yourself. So many women look at the next woman and make negative statements or judge her only because her hair may look nice, or she as a great eye for style, or even the car she drives or her financial standing. Are envy, hate, or judgment positive words? NO, they are not, how is putting another person down positive for any individual involved. Many women say "I don't care if anyone hates on me that motivates me", that may be true to an extent but you can't honestly say that whatever negativity was brought your way that it did not bother you especially if you treat everyone with respect and dignity. My point of this message is to inspire all women black, white, hispanic, asian, what have you to try to channel all the negative energy used to envy, hate, or judge someone into positivity and encouragement. That's how you become "Your Sister's Keeper" and the cycle will repeat itself. ~lovejoyasha~